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Chai-Lights 1/24: Shabbat Dinner and Speaker

This Week: Jan. 24 - 30

♦  Shabbat  Dinner and Discussion With Rabbi Amy Scheinerman - Jan. 25, 7:00 PM Dinner, 7:45 PM Services, 8:15 PM Speaker; Hawthorn Center, 6175 Sunny Spring, Columbia, 21044.







Hawthorn Center Construction

Due to construction at the Hawthorn Center, we are bringing back Friday night Shabbat at home with host homes. hat means, we will need volunteers to host Shabbat at home on February 8th and 22nd. If you can host either of these services, please contact Heather Zimmerman at 321-698-1412 for details.


With uncertain weather, if Howard County cancels evening activities, we ask you not to travel to the host home and instead celebrate Shabbat at your own home.


Please note that Saturday Shabbat Services during February will be held in the Watermark Clubroom, 

10001 Windstream Drive,  Columbia, 21044.

Upcoming Events

Shabbat Dinner, Services, and Guest Speaker - Friday, January 25

Please join us on January 25th for a Friday night program with special guest speaker, Rabbi Amy Scheinerman, author of The Talmud of Relationships, Volumes 1 and 2. The Talmud of Relationships was a finalist in the National Jewish Book Award 2018 (see:


The Talmud of Relationships, Volume 2 shows how the ancient Jewish texts of Talmud can facilitate modern relationship building—with family members, colleagues, strangers, the broader Jewish community, and ourselves.
Rabbi Amy will address topics such as: How can I lead others with authority and kindness? How can I strengthen my self-control? How can I balance work and family? How can I get along with difficult co-workers? How can I best relate to people in need?


At 7:00 PM at the Hawthorn Center, participants will enjoy a catered chicken dinner followed by Shabbat Services at approximately 7:45 PM. At 8:15 PM enter the Talmudic study house with innovative teacher Rabbi Amy Scheinerman and continue the Jewish values-based conversations that began 2,000 years ago.

Please RSVP for the catered dinner at: Payment for dinner is due by January 21st. Those who prefer not to participate in the dinner are welcome to join us at 7:45 PM for services, followed by our speaker.


SAVE THE DATE For Another Bet Chaverim Movie Night -

Saturday, March 2nd
Its got baseball.  Its got Israel.  You won't want to miss the award-winning film "HEADING HOME."
Details in next week's Chai-Lights.

Theater Group for INDECENT at Baltimore's Center Stage  - Sunday, March 10

INDECENT, by Pulitzer Prize-winning playwright Paula Vogelwinner of the 2017 Tony Award for Best Play is a deeply moving play inspired by the true events surrounding the controversial 1923 Broadway debut of Sholem Asch’s God of Vengeance. God of Vengeance is seen by some as a seminal work of Jewish culture, and by others as an act of traitorous libel. INDECENT charts the history of this incendiary drama and the path of the artists who risked their careers and lives to perform it. “This powerful drama...sheds light on a time when history, Jewish culture and the depiction of lesbian love explosively intersected.” —NY Times. “…[a] riveting backstage drama…” —The New Yorker. “…marvelous…more than just the re-telling of a long forgotten gem, INDECENT melds fact and fiction with the kind of insight and emotional depth that comes from theatre at its most poetic.” —NY1. “INDECENT ranks as a must-see for anyone who cares about the important legacy of Yiddish theater, or of theater in general. …we are indebted to Vogel…for reminding us of a brave play that fearlessly told the world there’s nothing indecent about love.” — See a recent review at:


To join the group on Sunday, March 10th for the 2:00 PM performance at the Center Stage, 700 N. Calvert Street, Baltimore, please:

  1. Email Questions and RSVPs to Laurie Diener at (not necessary if you signed up at the congregational meeting).
  2. Mail payment of $52/per ticket to Stu Goldman by Feb. 4. Send to BC's post office box (see below) or Stu's home address (10001 Windstream Drive, Columbia 21044)

Youth Activities

Religious School News 

This past Sunday’s session started out with a wonderful question:

Elijah: How do you know God is there if you can’t see him?
Rabbi Faith: How do you know love is there if you can’t see it?
Elijah: it’s in my heart.


Adonai S’fatai Tiftach is the opening line of the Amidah. We are working on learning this line (and the beautiful English lyrics) to a melody written by Craig Taubman. Here is a link to the melody: When we sing it in class, it is a bit faster with a little more umph!


We talked about the connection between the Hebrew word Achrayut (responsibility) with the Hebrew word Acher. Acher means “other.” We talked about how it is easier to show responsibility to people we know well and care about, but there must be some reason why the word responsibility is connected to otherness. We brainstormed a whole bunch of examples of different ways we show responsibility and how there are different expectations of responsibilities based on age and different relationships. We looked at one very unique sense of responsibility: “Operation Good Neighbor,” the Israeli decision to open the border to Syria in order to provide medical support and supplies to Syrian civilians and even soldiers fighting the the Syrian civil war. A wonderful and extensive conversation ensued, putting us on the right track for this month’s unit, Achrayut.


BCRS Information

Please go to the Bet Chaverim website ( for more information, or to register go to  If you have any questions, please contact BCRS’s  Education Director, Rabbi Faith Cantor, or Jamie Biegeleisen ( and/or Jarrett Reid at 


Sources of information for our Religious School:

  • Go to: to enjoy pictures of the students and school activities!!
  • The Bet Chaverim website has an updated page for the Religious School that is found under the "Learn" tab ( There you can find school information, including the school's calendar.


Remembering our loved ones is a sacred Jewish tradition. Yahrzeit candles should be lit the evening before the Yahrzeit date. If you would like to attend a Minyan to recite the Mourner's Kaddish on your loved one's actual Yahrzeit date, please call Karyn Gross at 301-233-4371.

Thank you to Laurie Diener, who alerted us to an online minyan should you wish to participate from home at any time:


If there are errors or omissions or you'd like to have your loved ones' Yahrzeit anniversaries included in future Chai Lights, please send your Yahrzeit information to:


January Yahrzeits



Dorothy Kipnis

Beloved Mother of Jon Kipnis

25 Tevet


Harvey Baronovich Gorelik

Beloved Father of Ivan Gorelik

27 Tevet


Ronald Barry Cooper

Beloved Father of Jamie Biegeleisen

29 Tevet


Irving Kaufer

Beloved Father of Gloria Greene

3 Shevat


Henry Sweet

Beloved Father of Sue Schaffer

5 Shevat


Aron Pollokoff

Beloved Brother of Gordon Pollokoff

7 Shevat


Royal Pollokoff

Beloved Father of Gordon Pollokoff

8 Shevat


Paul Freedman

Beloved Step-Father of Daniel Freedman

9 Shevat


Elmore Rosenthal

Beloved Father of Steven Rosenthal

12 Shevat


Anne V. Mason

Beloved Sister of Judy Schiffer

13 Shevat


Solomon Zeldin

Beloved Father of Marvin Zeldin

16 Shevat


Saidie Laiefsky

Beloved Grandmother of Karyn Gross

17 Shevat


Joseph Laiefsky

Beloved Grandfather of Karyn Gross

22 Shevat


Harold Gross

Beloved Father of Les Gross

25 Shevat


Walter Zingman

Beloved Father of Ben Zingman

25 Shevat


Isaac Aksman

Beloved Father of Sophie Novinsky

25 Shevat





**Bet Chaverim has established a number of ways for Congregants and other supporters to commemorate life cycle events, or to honor or memorialize individuals important to their lives. Donors can choose to allocate their donations to Bet Chaverim's:

  • General Fund for operating expenses
  • Chesed Fund to provide shiva trays for bereaved members of our Congregation
  • Melissa B. Gorelik Youth Fund that supports activities for children and adolescents.
  • BC Religious School, which provides Jewish education, and is currently running a moderate deficit.

Additionally, we recently introduced the new Eitz Hayim Chumash; for $72 (quadruple Chai), Donors can dedicate a book through the:

  • Chumash Fund that will be inscribed with a customized bookplate at the front of the Chumash.

Donations can be sent to Bet Chaverim's post office box, but please remember to include the fund you've selected, as well as the tribute reason (e.g., in honor of X; in memory of X) for your donation [and for Chumashim, the inscription you'd like to have on the bookplate(s)].

Get Involved

Help Kugel Connection Provide Food For Jewish Neighbors in Need

Imagine the stress knowing you have to choose between buying food or medicine this month because you only have enough money for one….This is a scary reality for 1 out of 9 Marylanders  who have to make this choice EVERY MONTH.  Kugel Connection is a non-profit organization that is working to eliminate this awful decision for  Howard County Jewish residents.   Chances are you may know one our clients.  They may be that nice person you see at Synagogue, or the friendly face you see at the grocery store.  Jewish senior citizens in our community need our help.


During the months of November and December, Kugel Connection is launching a fundraiser.  Its goal is to raise $5,000.00, which will enable Kugel Connection to continue to deliver monthly food to current clients and to increase the number of clients it can help during 2019.


For just a small and generous donation of a DOUBLE CHAI ($36.00), Kugel Connection will continue to help our Jewish neighbors.  Please donate today by going to or sending a check to Kugel Connection, P.O. Box 531, Highland, MD 20777. If you are interested in doing a double Mitzvah by donating the food and delivering it, please contact Cheryl Kaufman at


2019 Mah Jongg Cards: Deadline - January 18th

Are you ready for your new Mah Jongg card?  Order yours now and do a mitzvah at the same time!

A portion of the cost of each card goes to the Jewish Emergency Network (JEN).  The National Mah Jongg League sent JEN a check last year for $567 for our card orders.  JEN was established within the Jewish Federation of Howard County to help those individuals and families who struggle to place food on the table, heat their homes, and provide clothing for their children. Standard cards are still $8 and the large cards are $9.  Please send your checks, made out to Jewish Emergency Network, no later than January 18th to: Edna Nacht,  5141 Oven Bird Green, Columbia 21044.

Save the Date

♦  Shabbat Service - Sat.,  Feb. 2, 9:30 AM, Watermark Clubroom, 

10001 Windstream Drive,  Columbia, 21044.


♦  Shabbat - Fri..,  Feb. 8, 7:30 PM, Hawthorn Center, 6175 Sunny Spring, Columbia, 21044.



♦  Shabbat Service - Sat.,  Feb. 16, 9:30 AM, Watermark Clubroom, 

10001 Windstream Drive,  Columbia, 21044.


♦  Shabbat - Fri..,  Feb. 22, 7:30 PM, Hawthorn Center, 6175 Sunny Spring, Columbia, 21044.

Federation Events

Pop-Up Shabbat - Fri., Mar. 1, Evening, Private Homes. Looking for a way to celebrate Shabbat and get to know your Jewish neighbors? Jewish Howard County community members are invited to Pop Up Shabbat, a fun, informal way to celebrate Shabbat and get to know your community. To sign up as a host or guest, visit, and we’ll match you with the perfect fit for your Shabbat meal! For more information, please contact Shauna Leavey.  


Purim Palooza & Kids Activity Expo - Sun., Mar. 17, 11:00 AM - 1:00 PM,

Reservoir High School, 11550 Scaggsville Rd, Fulton. This year’s Purim-themed carnival features a DJ, carnival games, prizes, crafts, a photo booth, face painting, an Israel Escape Room, food, and more! FREE Entry! Purchase wristbands at to get unlimited tickets for games and activities: $18 in advance, $25 at the door. Proceeds raised from Purim Palooza will help support programs and services for the Jewish community in Howard County. To sponsor the event or register as an exhibitor, visit For more information about the event, visit


See Entire Community Calendar

Other Local Jewish Events

Tu B'Shevat Program at Temple Sinai - On Sunday, January 27, Temple Sinai (3100 Military Rd. NW, Washington DC) will celebrate Tu B'Shevat by welcoming Brian Frosh, the Attorney General of Maryland, and Karl Racine, the Attorney General of the District of Columbia, to discuss the important work they are doing to protect the environment in our area and throughout the country. This event will begin with Tu B'Shevat refreshments at 3:00 PM, followed by the Attorneys General speaking and answering questions at 3:30 PM.


Both Attorneys General have brought a number of lawsuits, including legal challenges to rolling back the Clean Power Plan, reversing Clean Car standards, eliminating the Clean Water rule, expanding off-shore drilling, weakening federal authority to ban ozone-depleting chemicals, and censoring science data. They are actively concerned about environmental justice, climate change, and protecting our children and grandchildren. For more information on their work, visit these websites: Racine and Frosh.


Please join us. For further information, contact Regina Ziegler (, Robyn Miller-Tarnoff (, or Lois Schiffer (






Bet Chaverim Congregation

P.O. Box 2428

Ellicott City, Maryland 21041


(410) 834-5583






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